You would not believe the number of women that stay in relationships year after year and never get one day closer to being married. These women have many times sacrificed some of the best years of their lives. Then when they do kick him out he turns around and marries the next girl he sees. How can you stop from taking 2nd place all the time? Here are some tips to help you out.
You didn’t require it-Some women require this for being in a relationship with them. You know going in that at some point you will either have to put up or shut up before they will commit to you. They will not allow you to monopolize their time if it is not leading to marriage. Other women will spend years with a guy and never even bring up the word marriage. These are women that are destined to get left when the one that requires marriage to date them comes along.
You were the starter wife-Some women are really good at showing a man how good marriage can be, but never closing the deal. The cook, clean, sex, give money too and all the other things that people do during a relationship. The problem is that they argue so much that the guy cannot imagine being married to this woman. Many times you see this in these on again/off again relationships. They keep breaking up and getting back together. At some point he will meet a woman that knows what she wants and will leave the starter wife in the dust.
You dated without a purpose-remember most guys do not grow up dreaming of a beautiful wedding and being married. They just want to be happy. They will continue to be happy if they never get married. If you are willing to live the rest of your life without getting married, but being loyal they are willing to let you.
You never asked-marriage does not work like a lifetime achievement award. You do not get one for years of quality service. You have to bring up the subject. It cannot be one of these wimpy, “What are we doing here discussions.” Be clear about what you are asking. Simply ask him, “when do you see us getting married.” You can ask that question directly because you were one of the smart women that knew the only reason you were dating him is because at some point it would lead to marriage.
YOU Allowed it-I hate to hear women say, “He needs to make up his mind what he is going to do.” No, why don’t you make up your mind. Set some standards for yourself and stick to them. You decide how long you will date before marriage. YOU decide when it’s time to leave. YOU decide how you will led your life. Do not leave your future in someone else’s hands. They may not care about it as much as you do.
Women have to start taking more control of the dating process. If you want to get married, do not say you are just looking for friends. Date with a purpose and you will be the one on the inside looking out instead of the one on the outside looking in. I wish you are happy marriage.